For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you
Matthew 6:14

Let’s be honest most of us struggle with forgiveness. It is probably one of the harder things to do especially if you have been legitimately and blatantly wronged believer of God or not. There are times where we can be in our “feelings” and the perception on if we have truly been wronged or not is contingent on perspective but then there are situations that are undeniable and the perspective is shared by most.
Cases of child abuse for example is probably one of the only situations left that this fallen world does not come up with a justifiable explanation or questioning and at the rate things are going I don’t see that lasting much longer. I digress, and I believe that most of us can agree that as this world grows much more colder the nature of offenses grow more extreme and sinister making forgiveness that much more challenging.
Many people have asked me what happens if these people don’t repent when they wrong us which means they do not turn away from the thing that they are doing that hurt us or wrong us? My response to that is having empathy and understanding the realm of the spirit is the best way to resolve unforgiveness within yourself. Once I understood that many and I would arguably say most are under some kind of generational bondage and spirit manipulation it began to be much easier to not take things personal.
I’ve learned to accept apologies that I will never receive from people who may actually be dead now, from others who are still slaves to their own generational iniquities and then those that the offense they caused signified a bigger issue that their open doors give the enemy access to use their vessel and they are not sorry at all and don’t care. Once I began to apply my perspective that I really was not wrestling with flesh and blood I began to see those of flesh and blood differently. I no longer held them to an expectation and I asked for wisdom on how to approach these relationships and rather or not they should be continued.
It’s hard to hate someone you understand and I may not have all of the answers but the Holy Spirit is a truth telling spirit and will give you discernment on the spirit the person is dealing with should you care enough to inquire. I say do it and pray for those who offend and despitefully use you, you may be the only one who cares enough to pray for them at all. Even those who are sent to destroy us are under captivity so keep that in mind when you want to lash out or hold offense close to your chest.
As followers of the Messiah, you know you have discernment when you are submitted to the Holy Spirit but these people do not know when they have been captured by Satan. Most of the times these people are oblivious, so will you allow Satan to hold back your progress. Will you allow him to continue to hold you captive over someone else who may just be a slave bound by their sins because you refuse to forgive? I surely hope not.